October 25,2011 Dealing with Preteens

Well,  I have to say the last 5 days with my son have been so hard and trying to understand what is going on with a preteen is driving me crazy.  Friday was a great day he went to his first school dance as a 6th grader  in middle school.  He had the best time so I like yes , a great start to a great weekend.  Saturday he did the pumpkin patch at  church with his friends from youth group and had such a great time.  Then Sunday comes and he is complaining about everything and what he is not getting and what he is getting.  He is never happy.   I ask very little of him , clean your room, make your bed, help around the house ,  then he goes on the rampage my sister does nothing and I have to do everything .  She gets away with everything.  Which is not true .  Then he comes home yesterday which is the topper with 1 in house referral   and 1 ISS.    He was throwing a pencil in the air and hit some one with the pencil .  So he was sent in to the office.  Then on 5th period  he left his PE clothes at home and he had an option of using  loner clothes or ISS  .  He chose ISS  .  Hello ,  why not the loner clothes when I forgot my clothes for PE that is what I did .   His excuse was what if someone peed in them or something.  Ugh. 


We are at a loss with him.   I do not know what to do .  He got an awesome report card 4 A's and 2 C's   and  he is basically a good kid.   But something is going on .  


So today we are going to counseling to see what we can do.   I want my son happy, I do know we can not be happy all the time but most of it.   I also want him to be able to talk to us about things  and be honest .   Is this too much to ask?   We are here to listen to help , offer advice.   Whatever .  


We love our kids and we only want the best for them.   






Ephesians 4:25-32

²⁵ Therefore, putting away lying, “ Let each one of you speak truth with his neighbor,”^[e] for we are members of one another. ²⁶ “Be angry, and do not sin”:^[f] do not let the sun go down on your wrath,²⁷ nor give place to the devil. ²⁸ Let him who stole steal no longer, but rather let him labor, working with his hands what is good, that he may have something to give him who has need. ²⁹ Let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impart grace to the hearers. ³⁰ And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. ³¹ Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, and evil speaking be put away from you, with all malice. ³² And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.